Focus on what is important is the only way to live life
Sometimes, life doesn't go as planned. And that is ok.
As we continue to embark on the journey of life, we will experience it in it's enormity. Sometimes we will be so happy, we will literally want to pinch ourselves. Other times, we will be grateful and know that we are lucky to be in the position in life that we are in. There will be times where we will be sad and disheartened, but those, we hope will be few and far between. They will only help us build character and learn what we want out of life and what we do not.
I have had a few days of being disappointed by someone else's actions. But that's ok. They are living their life and I am living mine and at the end of the day, it's their life to live and we can only choose our own paths and learn the lessons we need to learn from our own experiences.
As we continue to embark on the journey of life, we will experience it in it's enormity. Sometimes we will be so happy, we will literally want to pinch ourselves. Other times, we will be grateful and know that we are lucky to be in the position in life that we are in. There will be times where we will be sad and disheartened, but those, we hope will be few and far between. They will only help us build character and learn what we want out of life and what we do not.
I have had a few days of being disappointed by someone else's actions. But that's ok. They are living their life and I am living mine and at the end of the day, it's their life to live and we can only choose our own paths and learn the lessons we need to learn from our own experiences.
I really believe that no-one is truly a bad person. They just sometimes self-destruct or feel insecure and do things to protect themselves that might alternatively affect and hurt others. It doesn't mean that they are bad, it means that they are going through something and hopefully, they learn from it, but it is not another person's job to force that learning.
Be happy while you are living, for you're a long time dead.
My old Chairman used to say this to me and even as I type it, I smile. It's so true. Try and smile as often as you can and at as many people as you can. Find ways to make others smile whether it's a stranger in the street or your mother who spends far too much time doing everything for everyone else, but nothing for themselves.A journey of a thousand miles begins with a single step - Lao Tzu.
As we look at the path in front of us, it can be quite daunting. It can be intimidating and hopefully, it is incredibly exciting. But it is a step by step approach. Sometimes the step is so small, you ask yourself whether it is worthwhile or not. It is. Trust me. We all have long lives to live and we need to always focus on being better people and doing things that make others around us better or more confident people.Pain is inevitable. Suffering is optional. Anonymous
Wow, how true is this? Only twice this year have I felt any real pain and both times, I have suffered for a few days and then friends have been so wonderfully supportive that they remind me that it isn't worth the energy or the pain I may be feeling. To be honest, I am such a deeply emotional person and that often goes hand in hand with being creative, but with that, when I feel pain, I really feel it. But it is optional. We can always look at both sides of what created that pain and find the positive in it in some shape or form.How you do one thing, is how you do everything. Beware.
Some people have great poker faces and they can put on the charm better than anyone. But in the next instance they can be a bully or they can be dishonest. It's all the same. So trying to be a good person in every circumstance and to ensure consistency of personality, is everything. One of my best male friends always says to me, that myself and one other friend of his are the only two people he knows that are always consistent. We don't change. And for that, he appreciates our friendships. It also has alot to do with personal brands. If you are nice socially and put on the charm, then in business, be nice and charming. Never try and take something away from someone, just because you feel you can. Do unto others, as you would like done unto yourself.Never be bullied into silence. Never allow yourself to be made a victim. Accept no one's definition of your life, define yourself. Harvey Fierstein.
One part of me says, that you should always take the higher ground in life and never say anything and never hold any person to account. But if someone is never held to account, do they never learn that what they are doing is sometimes not acceptable, may hurt others or does not show good values? I am 38 years of age, and I still see bullying occur. You think it only happens in high school - right? Wrong. Bullying is around us and hopefully, we don't see it or experience it. I tend to say to bully's that I don't want their view on someone because you give them power by listening. Bully's are just scared individuals who have had something happen in their life whereby they feel they have to fight and get in first. They are all going through their own stuff and unfortunately, only if we react to that bullying do we play to their web of destruction.Make today a better day, for you and those around you.
This blog has come to me today, for a reason. I share it with you because there may be something here you can relate to. My job today is to make it a better day for the people I love, and those that perhaps I have never met but may connect with in some shape or form.Life isn't about being selfish and asking people to "look at me" or "I am so successful or so great", it's about a journey of discovery and exploring the world and the beautiful, unique and different people that we come into contact with from time to time.
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Matt
13 May 2013People can only make the best decision they believe at the time. If it leads to success great and if that leads to a mistake thats okay because they only made the best decision that they could at the time. Words I live by.
ReplyAmanda Flynn
13 Mar 2013Love this blog post! It definately made my day a little better. Everyone is going through some sort of struggle in life and the smallest thing can push you in the right direction to get you through another day and stay positive. This has given me the motivation I need for the day! Thank-you Mellissah!
ReplyMichael OBrien
09 Aug 2012As a recent public servant that has lost their job in the current cuts, it is positive to read such a great blog post.
ReplyMoving on from a position you love and working within a great team to not being employed is sometimes a hard fact to swallow, particulary when your performance has always been praised by your managers and now you find yourself without a job.
Thanks for the post Melissah, it has spurred me on again to get out there and keep going. Nothing will bring me down.
Aalisha
01 Aug 2012I can really relate to the notion of life being unplanned and it being "ok". All my life I have been trying to structure a path of happiness. However sometimes the saying goes 'what hurts you makes you stronger' comes into revelation meaning that things are not always going to happen the way you like. These things can sadden you but eventually at a point in time (maybe the far future) oneself realises that situational encounters (bad or good) happen for a reason. Life is unplanned, a roller coaster of emotions. It is best to sit back take the 'ups and down' and be in for whatever ride fate has in for you.
ReplyChloe March
01 Aug 2012Bullying is a wicked thing done by insecure individuals. It seems they target weaker individuals in order to validate their own existence. It takes a stronger person to identify these occurrences and make it known that this type of behaviour will not be accepted.
ReplyYvonne
30 Jul 2012Focusing on the positive things in life and going for the things you are passionate about, THAT'S the point of life. As a musician, I know that rejection is inevitable, and I've felt that pain. It's embarrassing, it makes you feel like giving up, like there's no point in trying anymore. But you have to push past that pain, because it won't last for long, and guaranteed that if you persevere you'll achieve more happiness than you thought possible. The only thing anyone can do is try their best, and learn from any sort of constructive criticism thrown in their face. Be driven, not scared.
ReplyAmy
28 Jul 2012'A journey of a thousand miles begins with a single step'
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Marco
27 Jul 2012Mellissah this is a really true and honest blog. I recognize so much things in it, and everyone can learn from this. There are many different people and they all come from different cultures and countries. But I think we have to respect eachother in who we are and what we are doing. You have to deal with people around you. Not everyone can meet your requirements so respect and be loving to eachother.
Reply'Yesterday is history, tomorrow is a mystery, today is a gift. That's why they call it present'
David
27 Jul 2012I agree with all the points, especially with a journey of a thousand miles begins with a single step. Sometimes it can be only one small step, something insignificant to start something wonderful in your life.
ReplyI remember a coach telling me that even if i put in an extra few minutes of training, a 0.01% improvement is an improvement and can be the difference between winning and losing.
priscilla
27 Jul 2012Anyone having a bad day should read this blog. Striving to be consistent is definitely one of the biggest challenges of life, and I think it helps to remember than a bad deed no matter how small is still a bad deed, but the same also goes for good deeds. and gorgeous photo!
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